Hey There Beautiful,

Proverbs 31:17 A godly woman dresses herself with strength and makes her arms strong.  This requires that we put in the work daily.

 My life hit rock bottom and I lost everything. I was living out of a twilight zone episode, feeling like a fish out of water. Loud shouts, long arguments, lonely days even when there was someone sleeping right next to me.  In 2017, I thought this was going to be my year. I declared it because I had so much to celebrate, I just earned my doctorate degree, preparing to take on the world with my gifts and talents.  My life came to a screeching long halt, the perfect picture of a healthy lifestyle and relationship not to mention I falsely posted on social media to cover up my shame.

I really tried to regain some dignity and privacy, outside from my inner circle of friends and family who knew the truth. Embarrassed, humiliated that I stayed so long when I should have left at the first offense. Fear paralyzed me because I was afraid of what others would think about me. Disgust with myself because I let myself go and I didn’t know who I was anymore. I was drawing in slow, steady breaths from my internal blow ups, dishing out false smiles hiding my deepest brokenness as I happily masked my replies to the question How are you doing today?

With a passive-aggressive comment… Blessed and highly favored my brown skin carved out the stressed lines on my outside appearance but feeling like a true defeated soldier in this war called life. Finding yourself during a crisis is like looking for a needle in a haystack. Eventually you get stuck by the needle and find your way… It was a journey I was willing to take…

My Divorce took a toll on me. It’s an internal and visible crisis of being broken into little bitty pieces and trying to put yourself, life, and family back together. Almost like a humpty dumpty sat on a wall and had a great fall.  It was difficult picking up the pieces because I was reactionary to my immediate pain. I was stuck in a destructive pattern of feeling helpless, ashamed, embarrassed, confused, frustrated, and hurt. I knew I needed to navigate this pain in a God-honoring way.

I can’t believe considering where I was at in 2017 that I am here today. That woman was a broken woman. I was in a place where I felt powerless, like a victim of life, I was lost not remembering who I even was. I felt foolish for all the things that I love about myself today, my heart, my strength, my courage, and strength to push past my pain and now here I am today feeling powerful, strong, driven, excited about life and healed.

I don’t talk about my work that much but right now, as I just went through this incident with this let’s just call him “Millionaire man” for the sake of not giving him power to be named, attacked me verbally and tried to shrink and belittle me on a group zoom call full of strangers. It almost made me forget for a moment that I was powerful beyond measure because I’m God’s child.  I decided I need to help others share in that transformation. So, I’m looking for your help.

I am creating a focus group with women who are in a struggle, feeling hopeless, feeling broken, lost their voice, and in survival mode and as if they’ve lost themselves somewhere along the way.  If you or anyone you know is in this place. I have a Focus Group I am running, and I would love to invite them to join. My hurt is what led me to soul care and my pain is what inspired this initiative. One of the greatest passions in life is to activate the voices of women for the kingdom. I want you to know this: part of living out our purpose is stepping out in faith and showing up to our highest self that God has created us to be.

The Right Kind of Strong focus group has been developed to help support women to move from just surviving and living from a powerless place in loss to thriving and being the powerful victors of their lives. It helps women access their strengths and opportunities for growth.

Please comment below if you are interested or share this with someone you know, or think would be interested.

Stop waiting for tomorrow, my beautiful friend. Your life is here now and there are other people who need you to live out what’s put on your life.

If you’re interested in participating in the focus group, click here